Why Burnout Happens with Bipolar—and How Pacing Can Save Your Nervous System
Let's talk about that specific type of exhaustion we experience with bipolar disorder.
You know the kind I'm talking about. It's not the kind of tired you feel after running a marathon or flying around the world. It’s a complete, terrifying shutdown of your body and mind.
And what triggers it? Often, it’s not a huge life crisis. It happens because you had a routine staff meeting, had to hit a writing deadline, and had a quick disagreement with your teenager—all in the same afternoon. Suddenly, your system pulls the emergency brake. Your nervous system demands recovery after weeks or months of subtle warning signs being completely ignored.
For years, whenever this happened to me, I kept asking myself the same toxic questions:
"Why can't I just be normal? Why can't I handle what everyone else seems to handle? I just need to push harder." So I pushed harder.
Spoiler alert: pushing harder was definitely not the right move. I write about this cycle in my Memoir, Tainted Love.
Pushing harder is how we destroy ourselves. The real answer isn't forcing your brain to meet arbitrary cultural norms—it's understanding what your one-of-a-kind nervous system actually needs and learning to work with it instead of against it.
A couple of years ago, I found an online community of chronic illness warriors and discovered a strategy called Pacing. It made so much sense that I immediately adapted it for my bipolar life. Today, I want to break down exactly what pacing is and how you can use it to build a sustainable life.
Part 1: The Bipolar Cycle—The Boom and The Bust
Before we can fix our energy management, we have to understand the vicious cycle our bipolar brains love to run on.
1. The Boom
The Boom is driven by elevated mood, hypomania, or simply having a couple of good energy days back-to-back. It brings a frenetic, tackle-everything energy.
Overcommitment: You say yes to every project, event, and favor.
Late Nights: You ride the high productivity wave late into the night because "you're in the zone."
Frenetic Output: You try to fix your whole life, clean the whole house, and finish three months of work in 48 hours.
2. The Bust
Because our nervous systems keep strict accounts, the Boom is always followed by payback. The severe sleep disruption and physiological strain trigger a massive crash.
Severe Depressive Crash: Complete physical, mental, and emotional paralysis.
Mania/Hypomania Flare-up: In some cases, extreme over-exhaustion acts as a trigger for a chaotic manic state.
Most of us wait until we are completely flat on our backs before we allow ourselves to rest. We treat recovery like a reward we have to earn after burning ourselves out.
Pacing completely flips that idea on its head.
Part 2: What is Pacing? (The Core Mindset Shift)
Pacing is a strategy for learning to stop before your nervous system forces you to stop.
Here is what you need to remember:
Pacing isn’t about doing less or making your life smaller. It’s about managing your energy so your nervous system doesn’t run the show. We get to stay in control.
If you live with bipolar disorder, recovery isn’t something you earn after burning yourself out—it’s something you build into the daily infrastructure of your life. It means saying no before you're overwhelmed. It means leaving the party early while you're still having fun. And it means not giving a damn what anyone else thinks about your boundary lines.
Part 3: The 4 Rules of Bipolar Pacing
I’m not perfect at this. I can't do it 100% of the time. But these are the four rules I shoot for every single week to keep my nervous system intact:
Rule 1: Set Time Limits, Not Task Goals
Standard task goals trap us. If you say, "I am going to clean the entire kitchen," you force yourself to keep going until it's finished, even if your energy tanks halfway through.
Instead, set a strict time limit:
Instead of cleaning the whole kitchen, say, "I am going to clean for 20 minutes."
Set a timer. When the timer goes off, you stop.
Even if you feel like you could keep going, you stop. Go listen to a song, read 10 minutes of a book, or sit quietly.
Stopping when you still have energy left in the tank protects tomorrow's capacity.
Rule 2: Take Breaks BEFORE You Need Them
Most people wait until they are staring blankly at a screen or physically aching before taking a break. Pacing means forcing yourself to rest before your body demands it.
Rest isn’t a reward for burning out. It is the preventive maintenance required so burnout never happens in the first place.
Rule 3: Protect Your Routines
Bipolar disorder is deeply tied to our circadian rhythms. Our brains thrive on predictability and react severely to light and routine disruptions.
Protect your core schedule like your life depends on it—because your stability does:
Wake-up time
Meal times
Working hours
Bedtime
Even when you have tons of energy and feel like staying up late to start a new project, keep those routine pillars identical.
Rule 4: Know Your Energy Budget (The "2 High-Energy" Rule)
Think of every activity as having an energy price tag: High, Medium, or Low.
Low Energy
Reading a book, light walking, watching a calm show, organizing a small drawer.
Medium Energy
Grocery shopping, routine work tasks, cooking dinner, answering emails.
High Energy
Heavy social events, emotional arguments, intense workouts, major deadlines.
The Golden Rule: No matter how good you feel, never stack more than two high-energy activities into the same day. If you have an intense meeting and a doctor's appointment in the morning, do not go out to a noisy social dinner that night.
Part 4: How to Implement Pacing This Week
Ready to try this out? Here is a simple 3-step action plan for your upcoming week:
The Sunday Audit: Look at your schedule for the entire week ahead. Identify all high-energy activities and space them out so no single day has more than two.
Set Interval Timers: When starting chores or work sessions, set a 20-minute or 45-minute timer. When it dings, take a forced 10-minute break.
Ditch the Guilt: Remind yourself that leaving an event early or saying no isn't flakiness—it's medical management.
Let's Chat!
How do you handle energy drops? Have you ever tried pacing, or are you stuck in the Boom and Bust cycle right now? Awareness is the 1st step in any growth or recovery.
Rooting for you,
Louise
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A QUICK MEDICAL DISCLAIMER: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I am a person living with Bipolar I Disorder, and I share my personal experience along with educational information to help people better understand bipolar disorder and feel less alone. This newsletter is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or replace advice from a qualified medical or mental health professional. Bipolar disorder is complex, and symptoms can overlap with other mental health and medical conditions. If you think you may have bipolar disorder—or you're concerned about changes in your mood, behavior, or thinking—please talk with a qualified mental health professional who can evaluate your individual situation. If you or someone you love is experiencing psychosis, is in immediate danger, or may hurt themselves or someone else, seek emergency help immediately.
